Exercise 1. Asking for Observation
A:
Write one thing that person does (observation), that you don't like.
Without evaluation, or judging. Can you see behavior separate from judgement.
Exercise 2 FEELING:
Difficult situation A.
When you do this I
feel X
Exercise 3 UNMET NEEDS:
Imagine again that you are talking to person and express you feelings as you do, this way.
When you do what I describe,
I feel as I expressed,
because I'm needing or I need.
Notes: leave the word - "you" word out. Because it will mix need and preference. Just need without reference to another person.
All human being have same needs, what differs immensely is strategies, that we been educated in for meeting the needs.
Exercise 3 WHAT WE WANT:
I would like you to ...
Clear action language. What specific action we want.
Note: Saying what we don't want, doesn't make clear what we do want.
Please do not do if fear of punishment, fear, guilt, shame. So we need to make sure it is request, not demand.
Prompt learning:
Learning Nonviolent Communication: Scenarios, Analysis, and Tips for Mastery:
I'd like you to act as a non-violent communication (NVC) teacher. Please present me with various scenarios related to non-violent communication. For each scenario, I'll identify the feelings and underlying needs involved. Review my responses and let me know if they're accurate. If they are, explain why they are correct; if not, correct me and provide guidance on how to identify the feelings and needs more effectively. Additionally, offer insights and tips to help me improve my NVC skills." Provide one scenario at the time, and wait for answer, just provide scenario, no questions. At the end complete sentence incorporating feelings and needs.